eo | oils + emotions

When I started with essential oils my goal was to make the house smell good and to maybe get some better sleep…those were both big wins from the start. I had no idea about the other great benefits that these little bottles held for me and for my family.

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I saw so many moms on Instagram talking about making tantrum rollers and finding ways to help their toddlers feel better or their own postpartum selves feel better. I didn’t think that I needed the support that they were looking for…my kids were 14, 15 and 17 and I was far from postpartum. But I was dealing with huge emotions. For myself and my kids…we were all navigating new things and none of us were fully equipped to handle most of it.

At first I was not incredibly consistent with my oils other than diffusing…I wasn’t sure what to do or really how they could help me. I remember being at work one day and feeling off without any real reason as to why. I had brought my diffuser to work that day but was hesitant to set it up (oh the hassle!) but in the afternoon figured why not? I diffused some Joy and Grapefruit and put it out of my mind other than just enjoying the scent. Driving home that evening I realized I was singing in the car…those darn oils had turned my mood around and without even thinking about it I was back to my old self. Did they really work? They did for me and from that day forward I looked at the oils a little differently. I looked at how they could help my physical and my emotional self.

How are you feeling?

There are so many different oils and different combinations of oils that it can be confusing and many people just throw up their hands and say…not for me. But be patient, give them a try. I am sure that you will soon see and feel the benefits. Not all oils do the same things for everyone and not everyone even likes the same oils. Be creative and adventurous. Try new things and new combinations and soon you’ll find exactly what works for you in the moment. Below are some of my favorites that I reach for based on how I’m feeling at the time.

unmotivated

Feeling like you have things you want to do but can’t find the desire to get moving? A few that might help get you going are: Citrus oils like Lemon, Lime, Grapefruit, Tangerine and Orange, Peppermint, Jade Lemon, Lemon Myrtle, Neroli, Rosemary, Spearmint, Awaken, Believe, Build Your Dream, Citrus Fresh, Clarity, Common Sense, En-R-Gee, Envision, Fulfill Your Destiny, Highest Potential, Inner Child, Into The Future, Joy, Live With Passion, Live Your Passion, Magnify Your Purpose, Motivation, Oola Grow and Valor.

stressed

Feeling like things are out of control? Some of my favorite oils to combat stress are: Bergamont, Cypress, Lavender, Lime, Frankincense, Patchouli, Peppermint, Orange, Ylang Ylang, Joy, Peace + Calming, Citrus Fresh, Gentle Baby (not just for babies!!), Gratitude, Hope, Oola Balance, Release, Sacred Mountain, Sara, Stress Away, Surrender, Transformation and White Angelica.

fearful or Low confidence

Have that unsettled feeling? Don’t feel like you have the courage or confidence to go after what you want? A big test coming up for your child or a big game? Maybe a big presentation for you? When I’m needing a little boost in the confidence department I reach for motivating oils (see above) and some of my favorite blends as follows: Bergamont, Clary Sage, Orange, Frankincense, Cedarwood, Jasmine, Rose, Roman Chamomile, Acceptance, Aroma Life, Awaken, Believe, Build Your Dream, Envision, Harmony, Highest Potential, Hope, Inspiration, Joy, Oola Fun, Peace + Calming, Sacred Mountain, Sara, Stress Away, Valor and White Angelica.

irritable

Grouchy and snapping at people at every turn? There’s an oil for that, too…in fact there are plenty. Use these oils to bring on a happier mood and keep the good vibes going strong: Cedarwood, Lavender, Roman Chamomile, Bergamont, Jasmine, Orange, Vetiver, Ylang Ylang, Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood, Frankincense, Clary Sage, Geranium, Lemon, Lime, Tangerine, Acceptance, Aromaease, Aroma Life, Awaken, Brain Power, Citrus Fresh, En-R-Gee, Forgiveness, Gathering, Gentle Baby, Gratitude, Grounding, Harmony, Humility, Inner Child, Joy, Oola Family, Oola Fun, Release, Sacred Mountain (it really does all of the things…for me), Sara, Stress Away, Valor and White Angelica.

EMOTION diffuser RECIPES

You can use these as a starting point, add more drops for rollers or sprays…get creative and get in control of your feelings.

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What have you found works the best for turning your emotions around? Being consistent with your oils helps so very much. These oils can help whether you diffuse them, sniff them right out of the bottle, roll them straight from your bottle or make a blend that is just right for you. Get creative and try new things, I would love to hear what you come up with and what has worked for you.

xo,
c

09 | exercise routines for self care

When I planned my year of self care I thought that I would surely have my workout routine down by now…but when this week approached and I realized that I didn’t I thought about switching it out for a week later in the year…and that’s when I knew it was best to keep it where it was.

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Exercise has always been something I’ve struggled with. I’m such an all or nothing person and when I find something to try I go all in…until I’m all out. I’ve tried so many different things, even participated in a couple sprint triathlons…crazy, huh? I’ve done all of the aerobics, lifting, personal trainer, home workouts and anything else you might be able to think of. But nothing that I’ve tried has been able to keep me motivated long enough to create a lasting habit.

I didn’t grow up working out or exercising on a daily basis…I was involved in basketball as a little kid and briefly in high school. I hated PE - especially those runs that we would have to go on in class. I love the idea of working out…but the time it takes, the sweating that’s involved and the energy…not really my thing. But getting strong, being strong and being able to move, that I love. But never really enough to keep going. It’s just not ever a priority to my life. But as I get older (and less able to move freely or lose weight as easy as I’d like) I know that a good exercise routine is vital to my self care and well being. My struggles with exercise is one of the biggest reasons that I love that my kids are so involved in sports and physical activity. They love it and struggle when they aren’t doing at least one sport at a time. I’m grateful that they have created that habit already.

MY PLAN GOING FORWARD

I have some health and fitness goals that I’ve been working on, trying to find the footing that best suits my life at the moment. Trying and hoping to get the habits solidified so that I can keep going even when life throws me a curve ball…because exercise is typically the first thing to go for me.

  1. rowing - I’m lucky enough to have a great rowing machine in my garage (alongside other exercise equipment)…it’s time to start using it again. Rowing is great for overall fitness and strength. It’s gentle enough on my knees and makes me feel stronger quickly after just a few days in. I’m planning on starting slow - 3 days a week and building up.

  2. yoga - one of my biggest struggles as I age is my inability to move as quickly or as easily as when I was younger. My flexibility is not great and that effects me in my work as a photographer. If I could slowly improve this it would make many areas of my life much easier. I’m going to be using Yoga with Adriene that has some amazing videos for all levels. And I’m at the lowest level there is here. But instead of giving up like I usually would, I’m taking note of where I am now and looking forward to where I will be with some consistent work. I’m starting with some general videos of hers and starting her March calendar of daily yoga on Friday.

  3. water - I know this isn’t exactly exercise but drinking more water and less coffee (which is the only other thing I’m drinking right now other than NingXia) helps me stay focused on my goal…and keeps me walking in the house more often :)

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What have been your successes with sticking to an exercise routine? What do you find helps you and what roadblocks do you often face? I know that a consistent exercise routine - that I will stick to - is vital to my self care. And feel free to ask me how it’s going if you see me…I’m going to need the encouragement!

xo,
c



08 | bring them along

As your kids get older they are often so much more independent. They have their own schedules and their own desires…and they are less likely to be willing to run errands with you. And maybe you resist taking them with you. But rethink that if you will.

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It seems so silly but a quick trip to the grocery store is a great way to spend a little one on one time with your teen. Ask for their advice on food choices for the family and chat with them about their day and what’s been going on in their world. Talk to them about how shopping was with them when they were little. Talk about little every day things…and grab a photo. You likely used to take photos of them in the cart…now get a photo of your giant kid as he takes the cart away from you.

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Do you have a job or hobby that you love? Something that you can bring your kids along with you? If your kid shows interest…or even if they aren’t sure…bring them along. It gives you another chance to connect with them. To teach them and to learn from them. Get photos as they are trying something new and allow for them to help you.

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There are little moments all around you, don’t let them pass you by…observe and look closer. See what magic you can find in your everyday.

xo,
c

5 steps to a more productive you

We all have the same hours and minutes in the day, but we definitely don’t choose to use them all in the same way. You see someone you admire and think…if I only had the time (or the motivation) that they do, I could accomplish those things too.

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The not-so-secret thing is…you do. You just aren’t focusing your attention where it needs to be…or you’re focusing too much attention in too many areas. I fall into this trap all too often.

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We get so caught up in being busy these days that we forget to buckle down and just do the work that needs to get done. We think that we must be successful if we have to keep turning invitations down or if we simply have no time to relax because we’re so busy. The truth is…we’re not focusing. Multi tasking was great in the late 90s when it meant that your computer could do more than one thing at a time…that made us more efficient. Until it didn’t. How many tabs are open right now on your computer? (I have 58…in one screen. Nothing to be proud of.)

5 steps to a more productive you

  1. Get up on time, get dressed and make your bed - when you get up when you intend to (no snoozing) you’re giving yourself validation that you follow through with your promises, especially to yourself. When you get dressed in the morning you’re telling yourself that you’re ready to take on your day and when you make your bed you’re giving yourself an easy win. You’re taking a small amount of time to tell yourself that you’re capable and already getting things done…keep up the good work here.

  2. Clean your work area, no piles, no out of area items in your space - when you have a clean and organized work area (a desk, your kitchen, your room) it helps you be more productive because you aren’t worrying about cleaning up before you can get focused on your work.

  3. Use a planner, use a to-do list - keep your planner nearby, use it diligently and plan for you week and plan for your days (at the beginning and the end of each day). Prioritize your days to get the things that you need to get done and plan for potential distractions…see #4.

  4. Reduce distractions and minimize distractions - block out your time to get things done during times when there are minimal distractions going on in your day. Keep your computer clean - the fewer tabs open the better (oh how I struggle with this…) and turn notifications off on your phone and computer and set specific times to check and answer emails so that you don’t get sidetracked.

  5. Take breaks - when you have scheduled breaks you know that you’ll have time to do things for you…so you can stay off of Facebook and Instagram and Pinterest. And during your breaks…set a timer so you get back to your task at hand when your break is over.

What are your best productivity hacks? There are so many other things that you can do to set yourself up for success and so I would love to hear what your favorites are.

xo,
c

eo | ditch + switch tips

One of the best things about being a Young Living member and having a monthly wellness box (Essential Rewards) is that we have slowly started removing the products in our home that aren’t in line with our current health goals.

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If you’re wondering what exactly I mean with a monthly wellness box, check out this post that’s all about essential rewards here on the blog. We’ve been getting them for over a year now and between the things that I’m ordering that we need and the free promos, it adds up to a lot of items that give us the opportunity to rid our home of chemicals where we can…and that’s the key. It doesn’t have to be overnight or all at once…do what you can when you can.

WHAT CAN YOU DITCH + SWITCH?

There are many areas of your home that you can ditch the chemical ridden products in your home and switch them out with healthier and cleaner versions from Young Living. The biggest and most obvious for us has been getting the candles and the fabreeze out of our home and using diffusers with blends that smell better than my favorite candles and room sprays that I can’t taste - good stuff all around!

  • diffusers instead of candles

  • easy diy room sprays instead of air fresheners

  • simple diy perfumes (or even just using your favorite oil) instead of perfume

  • Thieves Household Cleaner instead of literally every other cleaner I was using

  • Thieves Laundry Detergent instead of the popular “clean” detergent pods

  • easy diy face serums instead of expensive name brands with added…ingredients

  • savvy minerals makeup instead of the many brands that I was using prior

  • Zyng + NingXia + Nitro instead of popular energy drinks

  • get creative and see what other things you can switch out in your home

And the best part about adding these items to your monthly wellness Essential Rewards box is that you build up points to use on future quick orders - getting more products for free! Who would want to pass that up?

Don’t think that once you become a Young Living member that you need to make a huge change and investment and switch everything over. Instead, as you run out of something in your home, transfer that purchase from wherever you would typically buy it and add it to your ER order for the month. The other great thing about Young Living’s products is that they are super concentrated and you can stretch your dollar even further. I always dilute my laundry detergent, my shampoo and body wash…and the number of drops in a bottle of essential oils that I can use to create my favorite candle scents is much more cost effective than some of those big beautiful candles.

DITCH THE CANDLES

Here are some of my favorite go-to blends to replace my favorite candle scents. Get creative and find combinations that you love. Pinterest is a great resource if there is something in particular that you’re looking to recreate. Blend 01 below is my absolute favorite, try it!

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SOME OF MY FAVORITE PRODUCTS

I buy all of my containers on Amazon because they have a huge assortment and I’m impatient and I love free 2 day shipping.

Have you already started switching out items in your home for cleaner options? What has been your favorite switch? For me, I grew up on dryer sheets…and had no idea the chemicals that are on them. I love knowing that the dryer balls are healthier and cleaner for my family…and the cats think they’re awesome when one escapes the dryer.

If you’re already a member and wanting to get your Essential Rewards set up, send me a message and I’ll help you get started. If you’re not a member yet, come join my team, we would love to have you!

xo,
c

08 | water intake for self care

This one is simple and so very basic. Water.

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You must get enough water every day to feel your very best. And self care is all about feeling your very best, setting yourself up for success every day. How much water do you think you need? More than you’re currently getting, I would bet. Take your body weight in pounds and divide in half…that’s the number of ounces that you should be targeting every day.

5 BENEFITS OF DRINKING WATER EVERY DAY

  1. Eliminates the toxins in your body - flush all that gunk out of your body…all those trips to the restroom are good for you.

  2. Hydrates your brain and wakes you up - no more foggy morning brain when you get a glass in just as you wake up every day.

  3. Hydrates your skin from the inside - plump that skin up, keep it smooth and soft, thank me later.

  4. Give yourself that feeling of being full - often when you think you’re hungry you’re just thirsty. Drink those glasses of water and start walking away from the cookies.

  5. Amazing for your joints, aches and pains - keep your fluid intake up and give your insides the best chance at being its healthy self.

What do you love about the days when you get all of your water in? Do you o it every day? Can you tell the difference? I know that I can. I feel fuller longer, my skin feels softer and clearer and I have more energy - also more steps from all of the trips to the restroom.

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5 TIPS TO GET YOUR WATER IN EVERY DAY

  1. Drink one glass as soon as you get up in the morning - before your brain even knows what’s going on, you’re a good 8 ounces in. Side benefit is that it gets your body moving and wakes you up right away. Win win.

  2. Drink a glass - large glass - with every meal or snack (also, drink a glass before your meal, helps you slow down with the food intake). Helps with digestion and it’s really the only thing you need to be drinking. Say no to the soda - it doesn’t count.

  3. Set reminders on your phone for various times every day - don’t let “busy” get in your way of getting hydrated. Put a checklist in your planner every day or tally marks on your bottle - figure out what works the best for you and stick to it.

  4. Add a drop or two of a food safe essential oil or some fresh fruits to your water for a little bit of variety.

  5. Find a water bottle that you love and carry it with you everywhere you go. We’re a big fans of hydroflasks here, but I also love my plastic tumbler for plain ice water. Whatever makes it easier for you to get those ounces.

What’s your biggest tip to make sure you get your water in every day? Do you struggle getting in the ounces? Do you tell yourself that the CokeZero counts as water too? You’re wrong, my dear. Get the pure basic water into your system every day. Your body will thank you.

07 | a day in the life with teens

An idea that I love that I learned about years ago from the amazing storyteller Ali Edwards is the Day in the Life project. This project helps you slow down and see all of the little things that are happening in your day. The things that we skim over or deem as unimportant.

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Watching my kids drive out of the driveway together is something that I now do every school morning. It used to be me that took them, but now they’re on their own. I love their independence and am proud of their growth, but I do miss those times in the car together. Just 2 years ago I was taking all three to school. Things change before you even realize it…soon this girl above will be living in the dorms somewhere and I won’t be seeing her off to school every morning. I’ll miss watching her walk out with her hydro and her multiple bags for school and sports. Things change without us even realizing it.

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This project was a great exercise for me at this point in our lives. Three kids in high school, heavily involved in athletics…and it’s dark all the time right now. The photos aren’t great, and I don’t get to see the kids during the day as much as I did when they were little, but it’s a good slice of our lives.

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The sixteen images above tell a random story of an ordinary day in our lives right now. It shows that I still put their vitamins out every morning, that my youngest is now too tall to see himself in the bathroom mirror (I had no idea until I took the photo), that my oldest has very few classes everyday and often comes home early and this day brought himself Taco Bell. It shows that we have a full driveway and that we have too many TVs in one room (that’s a story for another day). It shows that we’re in the thick of basketball season and that I still have one kid that I need to drive to his events. I love this little slice of our lives.

TIPS FOR DOCUMENTING A DAY IN THE LIFE

  1. Tell you kids that you’re planning on doing this the day before. Let them know why you’re taking photos of seemingly random and silly things.

  2. Get creative with your angles…I love the photo of my son and his Taco Bell haul from above and the big glass of Carnation Instant Breakfast that my youngest asked me to make for him.

  3. Enlist your kids. I knew that I wouldn’t have many opportunities to take photos of the kids, so I let my daughter know that I would be grabbing a screenshot of her “gameday streaks” that she posts on Snapchat on gamedays. The rules in your home may be different and that’s great, you need to do what it good for your family. In my home, my children have social media and I love it. I love having a Snapchat account that I can grab images from that my kids post when needed. We send “streaks” to each other every day and it’s a fun little connection to each other’s lives.

  4. Get photos of the little stuff…fixing their hair in the mirror, them walking to the car, what the house looks like, their bedrooms, etc.

  5. Set a timer for yourself - I often tell myself I’m going to do this project and forget about it in the morning and realize they’ve been at school for 3 hours. Or when they’re home I forget again. Set a timer to go off every hour to remind yourself to get up and grab a photo of something going on right then.

Have you ever tried this project? I love it and think that it’s something I want to incorporate into our lives every couple of months…it’s amazing to see how fast the little things in life change.

xo,
c

5 second rule | review

I read this book, The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins, some time ago but thought that it was a great book to revisit. I’ve been struggling a bit with getting myself out of bed when I want to and knew that I needed to re-read this book. It was exactly what I needed.

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I first heard of Mel Robbins via a Ted Talk about getting out of your own way. I loved her way of speaking and really valued her story. I knew I needed to read her book. If you haven’t heard of her, take some time and go watch her Ted Talk, it’s well worth it.

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The premise is simple…I already have the tools needed, already have the dreams and desires. I’m just lacking the discipline to keep going. Her no nonsense approach helps me take the guesswork and the excuses out of my day…when I’m focused. Everyone loses focus every now and then (at least that’s what I’m telling myself) so getting back to these basics is perfect for me. One of my favorite quotes is above and the theory behind it is to give yourself little wins…get out of bed when the alarm goes off, make your bed, stay true to your word. Doing this builds confidence in yourself. You become the kind of person who does what they say they will do - even when you’re just saying it to yourself.

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I loved her chapter on worry. I struggle with worry and find that it distracts me from so much, especially following my dreams…that and procrastination. And she talks about that, too. She quotes William Wordsworth - “to begin, begin”. It’s so simple. Her information about procrastination was very eye opening for me. And when I understand it better and how my mind is playing tricks on me, it’s easier to push past my procrastination and stress.

I love that her book is all about courage, finding the courage, creating the courage and that this courage can change your life…in little ways that add up to huge change. If you haven’t read her book, I encourage it for those that are feeling stuck, when you know what you need to do but keep hesitating, sabotaging yourself or just not putting one foot in front of the other. 5-4-3-2-1 yourself into a better you.

Have you read her book? I would love to hear your thoughts as well…and what book did you pick up next??

xo,
c

eo | diy glow serums + my favorite oils for skin

Using oils on my face seemed so strange to me… I already have oily skin…are you sure? I had read so many different recipes and read about so many great results that I thought I must give some of them a try. I have found some that I love and wanted to share them with you here and talk about some of the most amazing oils for skin support so you can start experimenting yourself and create the most amazing spa like glow rollers ever.

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01 | PSK under eye night time serum

I love this roller because it’s one of the first DIYs that I made with my starter kit, I found it in the Oil + Glass book which is an amazing resource! So if you’ve got a starter kit, grab a roller and make this one today! Because this recipe calls for Lemon which is photosensitive, make sure to only use it at night…if you’re wanting to use in the morning, omit the Lemon.

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I get all my rollers from Amazon, but you can always grab a clean empty 15ml bottle and a fitament top and recycle those old bottles. This is a great under eye serum to roll onto clean skin before bed. It smells great and helps give the appearance of brighter skin. Take special care not to get any oil in your eyes…right? We know this.

02 | glow serum

I love these little dropper bottles. Any of these recipes could be made in a dropper bottle but this one is especially great in a dropper (the under eye serum is great with the roller with the steel ball roller cooling your skin). This recipe is great to reduce the appearance of fine lines and provides a good moisture after cleansing your skin.

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A great resource for these droppers is amazon or everyday oil essentials and they are perfect for mixing up serums or diffuser blends that you use often.

03 | clear skin roller

This roller is great to help with breakouts and to improve the appearance of some scars on your skin. I roll this over any problem areas on my skin after cleansing and allow to dry before applying anything else.

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This recipe is adapted from a couple different recipes in the Oil + Glass book. The frosted glass roller with gold label is from Simply Oily, although I believe they are sold out…but check out some of their other bottles!

04 | dreamy beauty serum

This is the most spa like dreamy blend and is quite special with the added drops of Rose. The oils in this blend are good for improving the overall condition of your skin…take some time and google the different properties of these individual oils.

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I love this roller and thought it was perfect in the beautiful perfume bottle shaped roller from Wood And Oils. It’s one of my favorite rollers.

05 | skin boost

This one I’m including after much research, I haven’t tried it long enough to see the full results, but I do love the way that it smells. This amazing frosted pink roller is from Everyday Oil Essentials.

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I don’t use all of these rollers or serums every day. I often will find a new one to try and will see how I like it. My goal is to find a couple recipes that I love and continue to make those. Right now my favorites are the Clear Skin Roller and the Dreamy Beauty Serum.

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The more research that I do it amazes me all of the oils and all of the various ways that you can use them to support your body. I love knowing that I’m putting natural plant goodness on my skin instead of the many chemicals that I used to use without giving it a second thought.

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MY FAVORITE ESSENTIALS FOR BEAUTY RECIPES

Here are a few of my favorite things for mixing up beauty and skin serums. I use these products all of the time in my diy projects. What are your favorite products to use with your oils?


GREAT OILS FOR SKIN SUPPORT

This is not an all encompassing list, and not every oil will work the same for every person. I’ve found that I love researching the oils and their different properties and experimenting with different combinations. Pinterest has also proven to be a great resource. Google the benefits of many of these oils and see what you think you might want to try or pick yourself up an Essential Oils Pocket Reference and learn all of the things.

  • MELROSE

  • MYRRH

  • NEROLI

  • PALMAROSA

  • PATCHOULI

  • ROSE

  • ROYAL HAWAIIAN SANDALWOOD

  • SACRED SANDALWOOD

  • TANGERINE

  • TEA TREE

  • VETIVER

  • BLUE TANSY

  • CARROT SEED

  • COPAIBA

  • CYPRESS

  • ELEMI

  • FRANKINCENSE/SACRED FRANK

  • GERANIUM

  • HELICHRYSUM

  • LAVENDER

  • LEMON

  • LEMONGRASS

  • MANUKA

Have you made your own skin serums before? If you’ve been to a department store or makeup store that sells organic or plant based beauty products check out their ingredient list and see what inspiration that you can find. You’d be shocked at the things that you can make in your own home.

xo,
c

07 | creating time for friends

Something that is so important to your self care is ensuring that you have time with your friends and loved ones. Going through daily life we get so “busy” that this often slips to the wayside. It’s important to have time to get our things done, to spend time alone and to make sure you have time with your friends doing things that you enjoy.

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This is an interesting topic for me and something that I often don’t make a priority in my life for various reasons. I grew up an only child and I’m a bit of an introvert and because of those two things, I don’t mind spending time alone. In fact, I like it. I spend a lot of time with my children and family and with work related things so adding in time for friends (that’s not sitting beside a basketball court or on a pool deck or in the stands at the football stadium) is often fairly low on my list. Not because I don’t love my friends or because I don’t enjoy doing things with them…but because not everything fits in a day.

Going through my photos looking for an image to use in this post showed me two things. One…I don’t take enough (or hardly any) photos of myself with my friends (gotta work on that asap) and two…I don’t do nearly enough things with my friends. Those two things need to change.

HOW TO CREATE TIME FOR YOUR FRIENDS

  1. Use the opportunity while at practices or games to get to know people or to go enjoy time with friends. Every afternoon while your kids have swim practice go enjoy some alone time with a bestie and talk and laugh and have fun. Need to use most of that time for catching up on errands? Invite a friend along or set aside one of those practices a week for a designated coffee date with a buddy. Have a far away game or event that your kids are going to? Carpool together and enjoy the ride catching up with each other.

  2. Take a class together - is there a subject you’re interested in? Look into taking a class or a workshop with some friends. Something that’s purely for fun or something educational. Just because we’re adults doesn’t mean we should stop learning. Always wanted to become a florist? Look into your local shop and see if they offer classes. Looking to become a healthier cook at home? There’s a class for that somewhere.

  3. Go get your hair or nails done together. It might sound silly, but if you choose to do those things anyway, bring a friend along. Going to pick out new glasses? Bring a friend. Need a new couch for the living room? Take a friend and go sit on a thousand of them before bringing your family along.

  4. Workout together - either in a class or out walking/running etc. These things that you need for yourself, they probably need too. Get out there together and work on improving yourselves. Also great for keeping you accountable to your goals!

  5. Try something new. Ask your friends about something that they’ve always wanted to try or to learn or somewhere they’ve always wanted to go. Go exploring your city or your state together. Chances are your friends have interests that are similar to yours but they might have ideas that you’ve never thought about before.

Why is time with friends so important?

If you’re an extrovert it may never occur to you that you need to create time with your friends. This may be something that you do all of the time and you love it (and maybe you might need to work on finding time for yourself). But if you’re someone that loves their alone time you may think you don’t need to worry about creating time for your friends. But this quality time with friends - either in person, over the phone or even via text - is vital to your self care. You learn more about yourself when you’re spending time with your friends. You get to explore and try new things. You have an ear that can help you when you’re down or needing input on decisions in your life. And you get the opportunity to help others when they are in need. Be a help to your friends, give them the love and support that they need.

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So I challenge you (and myself) to set up some time with friends this week. What can you go out and do together? And…get a photo or two. It’s important to your children for them to see you out enjoying life.

xo,
c